Self-Care Is Not Selfish: What It Really Looks Like
In a culture that often celebrates overworking, people-pleasing, and productivity at all costs, the idea of self-care can feel indulgent or even selfish. But here’s the truth: self-care is not selfish—it’s essential.
At Healing Journey Counseling, we help clients rediscover what it means to take care of themselves with compassion, consistency, and purpose.
What Is Self-Care, Really?
Self-care isn’t all bubble baths and spa days (though those can be lovely). True self-care is about tuning in to your needs and taking intentional steps to nurture your emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual well-being. It’s not something extra—it’s the foundation that allows you to show up fully in your life.
Think of self-care as the oxygen mask you put on first before helping others. You cannot pour from an empty cup.
What Self-Care Can Look Like
Self-care is deeply personal—it will look different for each person based on their needs, circumstances, and season of life. Here are just a few examples:
Emotional Self-Care
Saying “no” to protect your energy
Taking a break from social media
Talking with a therapist or trusted friend
Journaling to process thoughts and feelings
Physical Self-Care
Getting enough sleep each night
Nourishing your body with food that feels good
Moving your body—whether that’s stretching, dancing, walking, or lifting
Taking rest when you’re tired
Mental Self-Care
Setting boundaries with toxic people or situations
Giving yourself permission to not be “on” all the time
Practicing mindfulness or deep breathing to calm your nervous system
Engaging in hobbies that spark creativity or joy
Spiritual Self-Care
Spending time in nature
Connecting with your faith, values, or sense of purpose
Meditating or praying
Creating space for reflection and gratitude
Why Self-Care Isn’t Selfish
Let’s be honest—many of us struggle with guilt around taking care of ourselves. We worry about being seen as lazy, weak, or self-absorbed. But here’s a reframe: taking care of yourself makes you more available for the people and things you care about.
When you’re rested, grounded, and emotionally centered, you’re better equipped to parent, lead, support others, and engage with your community in meaningful ways. Self-care helps prevent burnout, improves resilience, and strengthens your relationships. That’s not selfish; that’s smart and sustainable.
Self-Care in Therapy
At Healing Journey Counseling, we help clients:
Identify what self-care means for them
Break through barriers like guilt, perfectionism, or people-pleasing
Develop practical, personalized self-care routines
Explore the emotional roots of why it’s hard to prioritize themselves
Sometimes, caring for yourself means asking for help—and that’s a powerful first step.
Final Thoughts: You Deserve Your Own Care
Whether you are a man or a woman, you don’t have to earn rest. You don’t need to be in crisis to take care of yourself. And you certainly don’t need to feel guilty for making your well-being a priority.
Self-care isn’t selfish—it’s survival. It’s a way of telling yourself: “I matter.”
If you’re ready to reconnect with your needs, find your balance, and create a life that feels aligned, we’re here to walk with you. Schedule a free 20-minute consultation with one of our therapists.